A year or two ago I had my first threesome, I’d admit that it was one of my best sexual experiences. You can read about that experience here. All first times don’t have to be perfect, but it was near perfect because two out of three of us had an orgasm. Had it been three out of three it would’ve perfection, since I’ve always aimed to please *insert thumbs and a grin*. Most men and women’s biggest fantasy is having a threesome, whether that is with a significant other or just two people they deem attractive. Even if that is with two women/one man or two men/one woman, I prefer the former, since I rather not be a part of a rotisserie. Skewers aside, here are 5 Tips on How to Have Your First Threesome:

Don’t Be Thirsty

The first key is to not be overly thirsty in having a threesome something is very unbecoming about a person that is beyond eager. That anxious energy is not conducive for attracting the calm energy you want from two cohorts to have a threesome with. Be vocal about wanting one but never force the issue. Like a full-bodied glass of wine being poured at the most millennial of establishments, just be patient and savor the magical moment when it comes.

Third Person is Usually the Hardest Person to Find

Finding the third person is as hard as the first two people make it. It depends on how determined they are to get a third; who will do active recruiting, who will be off limits as far as recruiting like friends or exes, and what concessions will guys make to find the one. Agreeing on attractiveness is always a tough one when it comes to threesomes, usually both parties have different tastes sometimes one person will be less attracted to the third you guys chose but it shouldn’t be a deal breaker.

Let the Woman Lead

One of the biggest issues that come up with threesomes is the women not being attracted to each other. It’s a delicate balance, it’s like you have to find an attractive woman that will turn her on, but she not so attractive that the second woman is insecure. They have to be equally yoked. So the best bet is to just let the woman lead the way as far as picking and finalizing the decision, and hopefully you are happy with her pick. You probably should be anyway since women usually have higher standards than us guys.

Do Regular Shit Together as a Group

When have found a third or are still scouting; go grab drinks, have dinner, or go shopping together as a group if you can. This can help break the ice before you guys make it to the bedroom. Having similar interests and a certain level of comfort are all pluses in the bedroom. When you finally do make it too the bedroom, just don’t say or do anything stupid that can ruin the mood.

Figure Out Who Is the Star

Basically this means, you should know at all times whom most of the attention should be given to. This is how you avoid people feeling left out. 20 mins you might be the main focus, then the next person and so on. Maybe you guys make it competition and see who can make who climax first. The star is just the person who will be given the star treatment at that particular moment.

Have you ever had threesome? Do you want to? If you do, what has prevented you from doing so thus far? What advice do you have for people who haven’t had a threesome? If you’ve had a threesome, how would describe it?

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